Get into her mind

Time to get her to start thinking about you. Constantly! Women love to be seen around with great guys. If you are a man of confidence, they'd do just anything just to be seen around you. It feeds their pride. Like I mentioned in one of my earlier posts, they want to be of worth. This explains why they love to be desired. And they can't stand it when a guy stops feeling for them or is getting over them. And this does not matter whether or not this guy is another Brad Pitt. It hurts their pride just to know that someone does not find them worthy of being dreamed about any longer. So what do we do about all of this knowledge about women now. Of course, we use it!

You need only one prerequisite for using this perfectly effective trick. You need to get acquainted with the woman you are going after. Even a short conversation at a random meeting will do. Yeah yeah you do need her phone number, you get nowhere without it. Anyway. Once you have this in hand, you are ready to conquer her mind. Let's do it. Why don't you give yourself an evil smile before getting on to it. Yeah!!

You met her last night. You told her you'll call. What next? Wake up next day and wish her good morning? Or maybe wait till evening so she won't think you live a lonely life? Wait, you desperate freak! Patience is a virtue only guys with gentlemanly traits possess. If this is the first girl you've ever exchanged phone numbers with, make it the perfect debut. Don't settle! Get everything out of it. Don't worry, she's not going anywhere. Now wait for a day or two. Do your work. Finish up everything you piled up last week. Play your video games. Give your car a shine. And then, when you are done with everything and you get idle, remember her. Call her. Talk. Have a good chat. Ask things about her. Don't tell her anything about what you've been upto unless she asks. You don't have to prove yourself to her. Imagine what it would be like to get her into a state where she'll be dying to know more about you but you won't tell. Pitch in a compliment or two, not an ounce more. Keep it natural and straight. You are talking to her because you have nothing else to do. Get into this attitude and she'll see it right through you, its a woman's inborn talent. And when she starts getting interested in the conversation, tell her your friend has come to visit you and you have to hang up. There! You've done it. You've started hurting her pride. She'll think. She'll start worrying. Am I not worthy enough? Do I lack something? Time to give yourself another evil snicker. Haha.

You keep this flow going and you'll keep the phone calls coming. Make her call you, you've got your bills to pay. Cut her off at times because you are busy with something else. Tell her you'll call an hour later. Call her back two hours later. And if she happens to do the same, don't pick up when she doesn't call on time. Of course you don't pick up. She called when she wasn't supposed to, when you had your favorite program on TV going on! And one day when you have the entire evening off, ask her out for dinner. If you've done this much, she'll be spending half her day thinking about you. And they say women are difficult!

The thin line between Gentleman and Loser

Its common knowledge that women love to be around and date gentlemen. The more gentlemanly you are, the more attractive you will be to women. Ahha, you've found it. The ultimate secret. All you have to do is do favors for women, and before you know it you'll be nothing less than James Bond. Right? Have you ever tried slapping yourself? Do it now. Let it be a hard one. Did you? Did it hurt? That must've gotten some sense into your head. Try using your brains, Einstein! You've got plenty of it. When you do favors for women, their sub-conscious automatically puts you in the loser category. And according to their dictionary you are a 'very good friend'. Yeah go be their friend if that's what gives you the thrills! Listen now. And listen hard. You are a man. You are of the same sex as those that fought in historic battles and wars. Those that saved their nations. Those that earned the highest of fame and respect. And now you wish to serve to the wants of women? Run a self-check, buddy. Let's go through the ways of being gentlemanly when you approach a woman.

Suppose you're walking on the footpath and you see two women friends talking to each other and walking towards you. They cover up almost the entire width of the footpath. When you get closer to them, you'll have two options in hand. To get off the footpath, cross them and then get back in. Or to walk straight ahead and make them give way, like you own the footpath. Which one?! If you chose to get off the footpath, think again. Was that gentlemanly of you? Was the city built to let only women walk around comfortably? Are you any less of a citizen? The footpath belongs as much to you as it does to them. You get off the footpath and it won't take more than a second for them to look down on you. That's not gentlemanly. That's not even manly! Well, its ok to do that if you don't mind being a loser.

You have asked this woman out for a coffee. It was a nice little chat you had with her last night when you met her at the pub. Now you've met again and you are at the coffee place. The two of you decide on a table and you walk towards it. Do you or do you not pull the chair for her? Remember, you don't want to be termed a loser. What do you do? Of course you pull the chair. You are not helping her or doing a favor for her when you pull the chair for her! You're just being a nice guy. And women love nice guys. The confident ones obviously. You've got to be careful here, brother. If you had been dreaming about the coffee date since morning, there's a good chance you would have planned on pulling the chair for her. Women have eagle eyes. They can see through you so well you would rather run around naked than be on a date with her. And then again, like before, less than a second to make it to the world's top 10 losers' list. Keep the flow. Be cool. You're playing a game. And you're loving the game. You're the pro. Things are easy for you. You do what you want. And you are smooth at everything. Natural. Clear. Simple.

You must've got the picture by now. You don't become their servant and at the same time you don't try to be heroic. You strike off a balance right in between. The gentleman. The man who knows himself. The man who is always right. And knows he's right.

What's he got that I ain't got?

He took her away before I even realised. Right in front of my eyes. Now I'm not even able to figure out what happened and when it all happened. Why him? He's not a good guy! She can't be with him. She was supposed to come to me. Why do all bad things happen only to me? I'm a nice guy. And he's got nothing in him. This is just not the way things are meant to be.

Oh shut your trap, will you! I'll give you two things to choose from. You'll make the choice right now. And you will stick to it. Here you go. Which of these do you want to be, a Crybaby or a Man? Choose one. Quick!

Let's see. If you chose to be a crybaby, close this blog right now. Throw away all your hopes of finding a hot chick to date. Go help your mom or something. I've heard cooking is fun. You could try your hand at it. And there's yoga too. Helps you gain perspective in life. Damn you, bimbo! You've got it inside you, you're not trying that's all. So why don't you close the blog now, take your own sweet time turning into a man and then get back here to learn and play the real game. But if you chose to be a man, you've already taken your first step. Congrats! Now hop on, let's see what lies on the other side.

There's no rule that says women like the 'bad' men. They love nice guys. Ones that are true gentlemen. Ones that will be good to them and only to them. Then why do we only see the bad guys walking away with all the hot women. Simple. Its based on attraction. Just like your tiny little brother between your legs tells you instantly if a woman is attractive, they have their own kind of attraction radar. We, the men, are attracted only by beauty, in all its various forms. For women, its not muscle or brain or virility but sheer confidence, again in all its various forms. Its straightforward if you think about it. The men that make it to the top of the world are the ones that are very high in their confidence level. They are the ones that knew right from before they started that they'll make it up there. And if they've made it to the top, they've got to be the best, right? Seems like women do have a little of brain inside them. Anyway. Now the bad news is that statistically, the bad guys exude more confidence. They know what they are and they are perfectly fine being what they are. They know they are right in whatever they do. But the good news is that to have or build confidence, you do not have to be a bad guy. In fact, you've got more in you than the bad guys to be confident about yourself, and hence to be incredibly attractive to women. Its time you turned it on.

Confidence is the way to go. Not just with women but with every other game on earth - money, fame, respect, power, and an endless list of other things. So what is the secret behind gaining it? If you've noticed the battle scenes in movies, the men right at the front run straight ahead towards the enemy with complete force. They know they are the weakest in defense. They know they will die. And an unimaginably painful death. But that won't stop them because all they have in their minds is that they will win the battle no matter what. They don't think of the consequences or about what they will face a few moments later because at that very moment none of those things matter. Only one thing. Go for the kill. And they know they are doing it right. Because the only other way is to succumb to fear, which gives nothing but the word 'loser' written all over your face with lipstick. You want something, you get it. Be a man. None of your actions are going to be wrong. You are right. And you know you are right. What you are is the way to be. Are you 5 feet tall? Yeah damn right, you are 5 feet tall. All those 6 feet tall dudes are bamboo shoots. Milk better than beer? To hell with the ones that think beer gives them manhood. If you're the kind that gets picked on by bullies, stop getting picked on by those jobless losers. If you are shy with strangers, stop being shy because you don't have a reason to be it. People keep judging you and making opinions about you, but they don't matter to you. You are what you are and that's the way to be. And that, my friend, is the meaning of confidence. Its probably obvious now why the bad guys have it in abundance. Your turn now.

What do women want?

Ever tried asking a close female friend what it is that women want in a man? The answer is always the same, "We honestly have no clue as to what we want!". Well, that's the truth, buddy. Women do not know what they want. Sad, huh? How on earth are we, the men, going to get through to them if they have no idea about what they're looking for in us? Its probably best that we just give up on the whole idea of dating and go back to watching all the self-help movies we've been piling up. Wrong! Guess what James Bond, this is a blessing in disguise. Think about it. Women do not know what they want. They cannot describe in clarity what they want, their puny little brains just won't be able to accommodate even the mere thought. Which means that we can fool them into thinking that we are exactly what they've been looking for in a man. That we are the closest it gets to what they call Prince Charming. Its like preparing pie or tuning the radio. You create. You beautify. You produce the thing that suits your needs the best. And then all you have to do is sit back and enjoy while she handles her job - to unzip your pants!

But there is something that they want. Its an intrinsic thing in their minds which makes it hard for them to put it in words. They want to be controlled and dominated. They want to be told what to do. They want to be of worth. And hence, all they want is to be treated like a woman. Oh oh oh. Wait a minute. Did you just snicker there? Then you're probably the kind that shoots up in excitement every time this hot friend of yours asks you to do a favor for her. Its great to do things for her, huh? She totally has the hots for you, right? Damn it, at this rate you'll never grow out of being a bimbo! You have just placed yourself in her 'friend zone'. You are useful to her and you'll never say no to a single thing that she'll ask you to do for her. And there's nothing more she needs from you. God! And I've been trying so hard to tell you that this is so not the thing that women want.

Take it easy, my dear friend. You have all that it takes to make it up there. Any woman you want. And I mean every single word when I say it. Any woman you want. For now, all you have to do is to get one thing deep into your mind, that women want and need to be dominated. Its very similar to the analogy between the way cats and dogs behave. Cats are vicious creatures. No matter what you do for them, they never appreciate or reciprocate. Dogs on the other hand are extremely faithful and helpful. They follow every order you give them and are there right by your side when you want them for something. That's it. Your work is to turn the cats into dogs. Because by nature, women are like cats, and that's of absolutely no use to us men.